Life is randomness. Sometimes I try to control it. Sometimes try to “go with the flow,” though most of the time that seems like just reacting to my circumstances. I’ve always tried to be a “good girl” and do what was right for myself, but mostly to do (what I perceived as) right for others. After all, my interpretation of the Golden Rule is not to do unto others as you would have them do unto you, it is to do unto others as they would like you to do unto them.
Is that the epitome of codependence? My happiness hinges on your happiness?
Can I try being selfish and simply want what I want (and take actions to that end) and to hell with the consequences?