Are you masculine or feminine? Unsure?
Interpret the Test Results (Ignore the androgynous score):
How did you do? Surprised with the results or not?
A void loves to be filled. When something (or someone) does not carry a label, society seems to bed for one. Such is gender. What pronoun do we use when referring to you? Is it or should it be tied solely to your genitalia – which, by the way isn’t always as cut and dried as most assume (there’s a great Ted Talk on that) or to an identifier of your own choosing?
How society views masculine and feminine personalities and actions is subject to many variances, and changes over time and across cultures. Take for example male buddies sitting on each others’ laps or holding hands (There’s vintage pics of that) – acceptable as a manly action even among heterosexual men in the 1920’s in the US – might be viewed through a very different lens today.
Writer was on a roll last night wondering if he was feminine for being empathetic and listening to a buddy who needed someone to confide in. My personal belief as far as empathy goes – we are all born with an innate sense of empathy. Think of how young children on a playground will often sit down next to another child who is hurt and crying and just join in on the tears. Children learn to separate another’s pain from their own, and in the US as least – males seem to be much more discouraged in showing empathy and compassion – they are taught to suppress what had come naturally to act “more masculine”.
That test you took? It was the Bem Sex Role Inventory. How much stock you put into using the results to define yourself is up to you. That test was written in the 1970s. Times change. Stereotypes change. Love yourself as you are. If you are struggling with your gender identity, please do no be afraid to seek out professional help. If you can’t afford it, there are low cost options available and many online support groups