Bonfire Alone

Last night my bonfire was alone, and very short. I was OK.

Had a nice phone convo with a close friend I stopped actively spending time with after leaving Ex Al. She didn’t take sides, stayed friends with both of us, though her hubby took the side of my ex. I chose to be sparse because I can make and value friends, a commodity ex has difficulty with

Well, I believe he’ll froze over because her hubby asked me to call him. Turns out that AL has not been too see them or returned calls or emails in 5 months, and he was worried. Wanted to know if I knew AL was OK.

I didn’t, have been trying for months for a reply from ex myself. So while on phone I Facebook messaged my son’s gf who was online. She said they’d had dinner out with AL earlier this month. I relayed back, and was asked to have the son’s gf not mention anything to Al.

Games. If someone is concerned about me, let me know you cared enough to ask.

On the other hand, I hate using the kids as go between. I won’t do it for my own purposes. Though I felt in this case shows I still care enough to follow up when his father’s friends are concerned.

Hears that the 80’s hair gal I saw with Al the one day was in fact his girlfriend as I had surmised. Learned they broke up, git back together only to have her dump him again. It makes me sad. I want him to be happy. Part of me is curious if he didn’t learn anything about relationships in the aftermath of what he did to our marriage, how he treated me. But then again, I only care in as much as it affects our son. I still feel the need to protect our son.

On that note, I’m pissed at the son too. Ive been asking for months to take him/them out for dinner, just let me know a day that works for their schedules and I get crickets.
Then I hear he has been out with his dad.  don’t get me wrong, I WANT him to have a relationship with his father, and I want him to have a relationship with me.

Seeing the son post to Facebook at least leta me know he is alive. Empty nest bites.


About Apophenias

I'm human. Female. Self-employed. Searching for connections in the randomness of life. Currently residing the US. ... And not quite defined by being in the midst of a biological ticking.
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3 Responses to Bonfire Alone

  1. If your friends’ husband (who chose your ex) wants to know how your ex is, he can call him himself. It’s not your job. What is he….a wiener?


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