Sitting around the bonfire tonight, we mused about the quality we most appreciate or value in a friendship.
One chose Loyalty. Another Honesty. I chose truth.
So we debated what we meant by our word.
One proposed that loyalty encompasses the others. I respectfully disagreed.
To me, loyalty means taking sides regardless of personal feelings, being there because the person you are loyal to benefits even if it is an inconvenience to you, and regardless of the truth.
An example I did not use around that bonfire:
My son was loyal to me when instead of telling me of my then partner Writer’s
poor choice od actions unforgivable criminal transgression, took his own action of speeding up his move away. Son knew he was leaving anyway,, was no longer comfortable around partner, and because he knew I happy being with the partner did not want me to lose that happiness he had never seen me have while married to his father. He was loyal to me, putting my happiness above his own.
I would rather my son had told me the truth, even if it hurt me. Truth trumps loyalty.
What trait do you most value in a friendship? Why? Share your thoughts in the comments.